Category Archives: Free Councelling

Donations for Waterstone Security Guard Killed on Duty

On Sunday 19 October 2014 there was a fatal shooting at Pick N Pay Waterstone in Somerset West during a robbery.  A security guard was killed while performing his duties.  Ukukhanya, in association with other organisations, including Pick N Pay, are supporting a fund for the family of the slain man.

If you would like to contribute please make your donations in to the following account.  Please make the payment reference “shooting incident” so we know to allocate the money correctly, the email address for proof of payment is ukukhanya.reception@gmail.com

Any financial contribution can be made to:
Account Holder: Ukukhanya
Account Number: 62325848052
Branch Code: 200512
Account Type: FNB Cheque account

If you, a friend or family member witnessed the incident and require counselling Ukukhanya can be contacted on 021 850 0061

If you would like to know more about the incident at Waterstone click on the links below.

Eye Witness News Report

IOL News

 

 

SEXUAL OFFENCES AGAINST CHILDREN

SEXUAL OFFENCES AGAINST CHILDREN IN TERMS OF THE No. 32 of 2007: Criminal Law (Sexual Offences and Related Matters) Amendment Act

Ukukhanya does not deal with Sexual Abuse.  Sexual Abuse of an adult is dealt with by Rape Crisis Helderberg (Tel: 0218525620) and Sexual Abuse of a Child is dealt with by PATCH (Tel: 0218526110)

The below is an extract of the Sexual Offenses and Related Matters Act that defines sexual abuse under South African law. Continue reading

Ukukhanya – Signs of Trauma in Children

Signs of Trauma in Children

Are you concerned that your child is reacting to trauma in some way?  Here is a list of some of the typical reactions of children exposed to stress and trauma.  Ukukhanya offers free counselling and play therapy to children, and parents, to assist with overcoming trauma.  You can find Ukukhanya in Michaels Arcade in Somerset West, 021 850 0061.

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Boundaries

Setting Boundaries

Everywhere we look there are boundaries. We have them around our homes (fences), our workplace (policies and rules) the road (traffic act) and we need to keep to this otherwise there could be consequences for us. Why then is it so difficult to have boundaries in our relationships.

Between two partners there need to be certain boundaries. One such a boundary between me and my husband is that we need to inform each other if we are going to be late returning home from somewhere else. This is for safety reasons. As you could see, boundaries should be reasonable and also have got good solid reasons which both partners are happy with. Some of these boundaries can be no shouting, no swearing, no physical harm etc. In severe cases it may even be no contact. Sometimes it is difficult for two people to agree to some of these boundaries and then they need the help of the court in setting these boundaries by taking out a Protection Order against their partner.  By taking out a protection order it will most likely mean that one of the parties would not be happy with this protection order and the conditions contained in this. That is why it is so important to set these boundaries early in the relationship even before it becomes a problem.

With our kids we also need to set boundaries from birth. Do not think you will set these boundaries when they are older and understand better. No by that time it should be part of their and your life. Be firm in setting these boundaries and do not move them around because that will cause unnecessary problems in your relationships. You cannot expect a 4year old for instance to understand why mommy/daddy allows him to have a cool drink with his meals the one day and the next he is not allowed to have any. You have got to put the rules down and then stick to it yourself. You cannot tell a 4 year old not to have something to drink with a meal and then do the exact thing you do not want him to do..

By setting down boundaries in a child’s life they will be so much better in putting boundaries down in their own life when needed. It can stop so much unnessacary heartache for them and you as the parent.

If I expect my husband to let me know he is going to be late I have to do the same when I am going to be late. Boundaries/rules are there for both parties. This will stop unnecessary heartache and disagreements later in your life.

Remember boundaries should always be reasonable and have solid reasons and be acceptable to both parties.

Hilda Lourens, CEO, Ukukhanya